Weddings
9 Thoughts You Need To Keep To Yourself During A Wedding
Weddings are fun except when you are the old spinster of the group. You get to be the maid-of-honor, the bridesmaid, the groomsman or the one that gives the hand away to the partner. You often wonder the moment you walk on the aisle will come. Sometimes your thoughts betray you and make you paranoid about the future.
Still, you keep a positive attitude. You even try to visit a palm reader to help you get a glimpse of your fate. But there are times when your negative thinking and snide comments get in the way of your well-wishes for the newlyweds. To avoid misunderstandings and friendship breakups, you need to keep these 9 thoughts to yourself when in a wedding.
1. Are you pregnant?
Anything bordering baby bump or the child-related questions are simple yet appalling. Asking the bride about her pregnancy, whether it was rumored or not, is the same as asking about her weight. At the same time, the questing comes as a doubt on the couple’s relationship.
2. How many kids do you plan to have?
Blurting out this simple statement is borderline prying on the newlywed’s plan for their life. This question often comes from old family members and relatives. The couple has just surpassed the pressure of orchestrating their grand ambition tie the knot. Let them breathe for a moment.
3. Why isn’t *insert name of an ex, friend, brother’s girlfriend, etc.* invited?
There are various reasons why a person isn’t on the guest list. First, there’s a limit on the number of guests. The person you asked about may not be a priority, so he or she isn’t around to witness the ceremony. Next, the bride and that person may have burned bridges and aren’t in good terms for a long time.
4. Is that the dress you will wear?
This is just plain rude and insulting especially when delivered in a condescending tone. Brides need support and assistance. They have to be on top of wedding preparations, the guest list and everything in between. It’s best if you don’t add the wedding dress to the pile of things on their mind.
5. How much did you spend on the *specific item*?
Asking her the price of the item will just remind her of the tantamount expenses she has to face because of the wedding. She already knows her obligations, and she doesn’t need further reminding. The only time it’s fitting to ask this question is when you are the one spending or paying for the item.
6. Will you go on a diet?
Commenting on weight or the bride-to-be’s body image makes you insensitive. Weight and body size is a sensitive topic for women. Moreover, it is a natural phenomenon. Better skip the question and just love her as she is.
7. I thought it was a joke when you said (insert name or animal) will be part of the ceremony.
The wedding day is a particular moment for the bride and groom, so it’s only natural for them to include anyone or anything special in their life. Don’t be a killjoy and take the happiness of their life-changing moment.
8. Did you get it from Pinterest?
Pinterest is highly useful for getting ideas and pegs for the wedding. Most brides use the app to manage their plans and get inspiration for what they want on their special day. Instead of mentioning the fact that the bouquet looks precisely like the pin you saw the other night, why not comment on how well they pulled it off? The compliments and little praises are sure to make the couple’s day.
9. I promised I would make a toast, but I didn’t have time to write anything.
Being a part of a wedding means you have a special place in the life of the bride. Telling her that you didn’t have the time or showing her that you can’t make time for her special moment is hurtful. Moreover, the neglect is a reflection of your personality. Forgetting to do a simple thing for your friend or family member is a negative trait that put people off.
Any moment you feel like blurting any of these, excuse yourself from the group. Go as far away from the party and go on full-rant on a trusted friend. You will feel so much better after. You can always go to the open bar and drink as much as you want. Cheers!